lifestyle \\ the source of confidence

Thursday, 12 September 2013

Someone said to me the other day that I need to deal with my confidence. Bearing in mind, I had only met this person once. Once. I didn't think much of the comment at first then I started thinking a little more and then I realised that I have grown leaps and bounds and I certainly wouldn't recognise the person that I was before.

I think confidence or being comfortable with yourself comes from the people you surround yourself with and the experiences that you go through. My study abroad experience literally turned my whole life around and having to go through a period of time as a struggling graduate also made a big difference to me.

I used to be a shy girl that didn't socialise, had trouble making eye contact with people and looked down at the ground whilst I was walking. I think the source of my lack of confidence at the time came from my body image. I wasn't happy with how I looked and I took action. I slowly shed the pounds. I know I'm not 100% of the way there but it's enough.

Starting blogging and putting myself out there on the internet is something that I thought I'd never do and I've loved the journey so far and how welcoming the blogging community can be. Obviously I have the odd off day here and there but I know I'll always be back here.

Working in an environment where I'm speaking to people on the phone for 10 hours straight and going for job interviews have really brought me out of my shell and I really couldn't have asked for better work colleagues who have listened to me rant and rave and told me to man up when I've made silly decisions. 

What I'm trying to say is that confidence takes time to build up. And although I can be a little shy meeting new people, basing an opinion of me on one meeting is a sure way to knock my confidence back down. I can't tell what kind of person I'll end up being and I know I have so many more experiences to go through and that's the thing I'm looking forward to the most.

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How have your experiences changed the person you are? Do you think you're better for it?




  1. Oh I totally agree. When I think of how shy I was and my lack of confidence, maybe only three years ago, I'm astonished that I can be the person that I am now. It definitely comes with your circumstances and either pushing yourself or being pushed, out of your comfort zones.
    Someone I knew recently for a short but quite intense period of time told me they thought I was really confident and I could have laughed in their face if it wasn't such a compliment! I wouldn't say I'm all the way there, but I'm learning to fake it until I make it.
    Kirstie x

    1. Thanks so much for your comment Kirstie!

      I like how experiences makes someone grow as a person. I'm looking forward to seeing what kind of person I become by surrounding myself with awesome people :)